Have you ever had one of those stretches where you can’t quite explain what’s wrong… but you know you’re not yourself?
You’re getting things done (sort of). You’re showing up (technically). But inside, you feel flat. Heavy. A little foggy. Like your spark packed a bag and went on vacation without telling you.
And then you start doing that thing we all do: you judge yourself for it.
Why am I like this? What’s wrong with me? I should be grateful. I should be tougher. I should be able to push through.
I’ve coached Olympians, executives, and high-performing teams, and I’ll tell you something that still surprises people: the most driven, successful folks are often the ones most likely to end up in a funk, because they’ve trained themselves to override fatigue for so long.
This post isn’t a “10 hacks to fix your life” kind of thing. It’s more like a gentle playbook. A coach’s perspective. Something to come back to when you’re tired, burned out, and you need a way forward that feels human.
And yes, if you’re in that place right now, positive change is still possible. For you too.
First, let’s name it: funk, burnout… or something else?
A funk is usually a short-term dip, low mood, low energy, low motivation. You can still function, but everything feels like it takes more effort than it should.
Burnout is deeper. It’s that “running on empty” feeling that sticks around, especially when your life has become all output and no refill.
And then there’s depression, which can overlap with both. I’m not here to diagnose anything (I’m a coach, not a clinician), but I am here to encourage you to take yourself seriously.
If you’ve had two weeks or more of persistent low mood, loss of interest, major sleep/appetite changes, or you’re having thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional right away. Here are a couple helpful starting points:
- Mental Health America: “How to get out of a funk” (and when to seek help) https://screening.mhanational.org/content/how-get-out-funk/
- WebMD slideshow: ways to feel better / mood support basics https://www.webmd.com/balance/ss/slideshow-feel-better
You don’t get bonus points for suffering quietly. Why is it that we don’t do that? Why is it that you can’t cut yourself a break?
A coach’s core principle: control what you can control
When you’re in a funk, your brain starts looking for big answers.
- “Should I change jobs?”
- “Is this relationship wrong?”
- “Did I waste the last 10 years?”
Sometimes those questions matter. But when you’re depleted, you’re not asking from wisdom, you’re asking from exhaustion.
So we come back to something simple: control what you can control.
Not everything. Just a few basics. And then you stack small wins until you feel like yourself again.
That’s the playbook.
Step 1: Stop the leak (before you try to “get motivated”)
Burnout is often like a bucket with a hole in it. You keep pouring effort in, but you never fill back up.
So before you chase inspiration, ask:
What’s draining me that I haven’t admitted is draining me?
Maybe it’s:
- being “on” all the time at work
- a calendar with no white space
- late-night scrolling that steals your sleep
- saying yes because you don’t want to disappoint people
This is where boundaries start, not as some aggressive “I’m protecting my energy” speech… but as a quiet decision: I matter too.
If you want one tiny practice that helps: write down three priorities for tomorrow and let the rest be “nice-to-have.” Not forever. Just tomorrow. Your nervous system loves that kind of clarity.
Step 2: Make your world smaller (in the best way)
When you’re burned out, you don’t need a five-year plan. You need a today plan.
I’ve had days where my “plan” looked embarrassingly simple:
- drink water
- walk around the block
- answer one email I’ve been avoiding
- go to bed earlier than usual
And here’s the funny part: when I did those small things, I started to feel a little… capable again.
Not amazing. Not “brand new me.” Just capable.
And capable is powerful.
If you want a guide for mood resets with practical ideas, Cleveland Clinic has a solid overview here:
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/not-feeling-like-yourself-lately-how-to-get-out-of-a-funk
Step 3: Move your body gently (don’t “work out”, just move)
When you’re in a funk, motivation is unreliable. But motion is available.
You don’t need an intense workout. You need a signal to your system that you’re not stuck.
A few options that don’t require hype:
- a 10-minute walk (even 5 minutes counts)
- stretching while the kettle boils
- one song on headphones and you just… move
- fresh air on your face, even if you feel grumpy about it
In elite sport, we don’t always train hard, sometimes we train smart. Recovery has a rhythm. Business does too.
Step 4: Check your self-talk (because it’s usually harsher than reality)
Burnout comes with a soundtrack:
- “I’m falling behind.”
- “I can’t keep up.”
- “Everyone else is handling life better than me.”
But here’s what I’ve seen over and over: when someone is exhausted, their mind starts telling stories that aren’t true, or at least aren’t complete.
Try this simple reframe:
- Write the thought down: “I’m failing.”
- Ask: Is that 100% true?
- Replace it with something more honest:
“I’m depleted right now, and depleted people don’t perform like rested people. I can recover.”
That’s not positive thinking. That’s accurate thinking.
And accuracy brings you back to solid ground.
Step 5: Reconnect (even if you want to disappear)
A big sign you’re in a funk is that you start isolating. You cancel plans. You avoid calls. You keep everything “fine” and private.
And I get it. Sometimes people feel like work.
But the right people, your people, are not work. They’re medicine.
You don’t need a deep therapy session with your buddy. You just need a moment of connection:
- a short walk with someone you trust
- a coffee where you don’t have to pretend
- a text that says, “Hey, I’m a bit off lately: can we catch up?”
If you’re struggling with what to do when you’re down and you want a broader menu of ideas, Mental Health America’s suggestions can help you choose small steps:
https://screening.mhanational.org/content/how-get-out-funk/
Step 6: Protect your sleep like it’s part of the job (because it is)
Most burnout recoveries rise or fall on one thing: sleep.
Not because sleep is magic. Because sleep is repair.
If your sleep is off, try one small adjustment first (not a full lifestyle overhaul):
- put your phone on the other side of the room
- dim lights 60 minutes before bed
- keep bedtime and wake time roughly consistent
- cut caffeine earlier in the day
And if you wake up at 3:00 a.m. and your brain starts negotiating your whole future… welcome to being human. It happens. Bring it back to the breath. Bring it back to the body. Bring it back to now.
A simple “bounce-back” routine (for the next 7 days)
This is not a challenge. Not a bootcamp. Just a gentle rhythm.
If you’re in a funk, try this for a week:
- One small body win daily: water + a short walk
- One small environment win daily: tidy one small area (desk, countertop, car seat)
- One small connection win daily: a text, a call, a quick hello
- One small meaning win daily: read 2 pages, journal 5 lines, sit quietly for 3 minutes
That’s it.
And you might notice something subtle: you start trusting yourself again. Why is it that we forget how powerful that is? Why is it that we think recovery has to be dramatic?
It doesn’t. It can be quiet. It can be ordinary. It can be one small choice at a time.
When you’re ready: get support (you don’t have to do this alone)
Sometimes a funk lifts with a few weeks of better rhythm and gentler expectations.
Sometimes burnout is telling you something bigger: your workload is unsustainable, your boundaries are too porous, or your leadership needs a new approach.
If you want support from a coach: someone to help you regain clarity, rebuild your performance without sacrificing your wellbeing, and get your spark back: I’m here.
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You don’t need to become a different person. You just need to come back to yourself.
Namaste